The non-believer in others
The non-believer in others74ast week I looked at the journey from non-believer to True Believer in https://www.candicewalker.com/blog/blog-3 and how to put first things first that you needed to work on the non-believer in yourself.
Today we are going to look at the steps one must take to help the non-believer in others.
The hardest thing when you are diagnosed with a brain tumor is to face your loved ones. It is not that they don't want to be there for you. And I have been luckier than probably anyone I know in terms of support. It is knowing that for most, they have already resigned you to a death sentence. Now I am not naïve, but if we all stay in the realm of the non-believer then a cure for this insidious cancer will never be found.
Accordingly we need to make a move up the True Believer ladder.
Research shows that you can influence your level of motivation. That’s important as motivation greatly determines how we act, and our actions determine the life we enjoy. True Believers are motivated! A crucial factor that contributes to the motivation is the company that we keep. Keeping company with True Believers rather than non-believers will greatly influence your level of motivation and your ability to create your masterpiece.
What motivates you? What gives you that get up and go – the drive, the energy, the stamina and the commitment to create amazing outcomes? For the most part motivation is an inner desire to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. As Zig Ziglar said, “Motivation is the fuel necessary to keep the human energy running.” And if motivation is the driving force, the company you keep can determine the quality of the drive or the dollars per litre you choose to pay.
The company you keep can have a positive or a negative impact on your motivation. The people around you can:
Affect you – you are influenced by the company you keep
Infect you – you are changed by the company you keep
Define you – you are known by the company you keep
Reflect you – you are the company that you keep
Be like Mandela
The most pertinent stat that you are given is ‘survival rate’ or ‘survival’ time. Nothing is locked in stone. I was told I had 3-5 years to live and I am now well into my fifth year of ‘thriving’ with cancer. One thing I do know is that your choice of people in your life has a defining impact on the quality of your life. If I could choose the qualities of one True Believer it would be Nelson Mandela. Now there is probably never going to be another human who espouses the quality of Nelson, but the lessons of his life should be a beacon of how we live our lives.
Nelson Mandela was 45 years old when he was sentenced to life imprisonment. While in prison he held his belief in his ideal and his stature continued to grow as did those who believed in the same vision. While Mandela was in prison other leaders throughout the world also believed in his vision and campaigned for change.
The struggle against apartheid continued for 40 years. In the late 1980’s under world pressure, the government began to dismantle apartheid. In 1990, at the age of 71, Mandela was released from prison. He was again a free man. At his first appearance as a free man, nearly three decades since his imprisonment, Mandela spoke: “I stand here before you not as a prophet, but as a humble servant of you the people. I place the remaining years of my life in your hands.”
He became the country’s first black President of a united non-racial South Africa, saying “Never, never and never again shall it be that this beautiful land will again experience the oppression of one by another.” He created an enduring legacy through the many contributions of the Nelson Mandela Foundation.
Nelson Mandela worked tirelessly on what he truly believed for his entire life. He successfully managed the many non-believers that came before him on a massive purpose – one many said was so large it was futile. He said, “It’s futile to be thinking about what happened in the past. We are thinking about what is happening now and what should happen tomorrow.”
Nelson Mandela was a man who despite spending 30 years in prison, kept the hope and embodied the qualities of a True Believer. His strong belief is what gave him a lifetime of stamina and a commitment to finish. He became an icon of leadership and humanity. His unwavering belief was and still is an inspiration to many.
Nelson Mandela lived his life with:
Nelson Mandela was a True Believer!
It is important to consider carefully who you spend time with.
When it comes to motivation making the right choices about the company you keep matters. When it comes to the company you keep – choose wisely!
In next week’s blog, we will look at the six tips for living with a non-believer.
Love & Peace